Unhealthy Masculinity

We have tolerated bitterness for too long.
We’ve excused it as personality. Normalized it as “just how men are.”
But bitterness, when left unchallenged, becomes dangerous.

Unhealthy masculinity is not born from strength.
It grows out of insecurity.
And insecurity, when it festers, seeks control.

This is why fragile egos are never harmless. They confuse love with possession. They mistake vulnerability for weakness. And too often, they turn their unhealed wounds into weapons.

That’s how insecurity leads to abuse.
Not because the abuser is powerful — but because he is desperate.
Desperate to soothe his fears. Desperate to avoid abandonment. Desperate to feel big in places where he feels small.

The tragedy is this: his wound becomes someone else’s burden. His fear becomes someone else’s trauma.

We cannot keep tolerating it.
Bitterness is not masculinity.
Insecurity is not an excuse.
And abuse is never acceptable.

The truth is, we have tolerated bitterness for too long.
We’ve excused male privilege.

And while we may never completely uproot it, we can decide what it becomes.
Privilege does not have to be a weapon. It can be a shield.

The question is not how to erase privilege overnight, but how to redirect it — how to place it in the hands of those who will use it to protect rather than to harm.

Power without accountability corrodes.
But power used in service of others restores.

The work ahead is not just dismantling.
It is reimagining.

Always,

Zahra